Men, The Grass is Greener Where it is Watered

As a society, we have come to accept the fact that most men will cheat on their spouses/partners from time to time. We have even accepted it as some sort of standard. I mean if your man doesnt cheat, his peers may consider him to be weak, he cant conquer.

One question i have always asked myself, what if the shoe is on the other foot? What if it was your wife cheating on you?

• The same way you give your Mpango wa kando your wife's number, and she calls her at midnight mocking and abusing her, what if your wife also gave her partner your number? Would she still be alive by morning?
• You brag to your friends and everyone in your circle knows that you have a sidekick, how would you react if your wife did the same thing?
• You keep talking about how you cannot eat Sukuma-Wiki everyday of your life, and how you need a break from your wife. What if your wife decides she is tired with your ugali everyday and she also needs some pizza in hers?
• You keep begging her to forgive you every time she catches you red-handed. if she was cheating on you, would you forgive her everytime you found her cheating?
• You claim that she has changed, she doesnt look the way she did when you met her. well so have you. You got a pot belly and you don't last that long at night either, is that reason enough for her to cheat on you?
• Apparently she needs your permission to stay out late with her girlfriends, do you need hers?
• You expect her to accept you back and forgive you 100%, but when you catch her doing the same, the marriage is irredeemable.
• If it is okay for you to marry two wives, then why cant your wife bear children for another man?

Why the double standards? Why is it that when men cheat on faithful women they expect forgiveness, yet when a woman does the same we hear cases of murders, violence et al? If your wife is as bad as you claim, then why dont you let her go?

What makes men think that their philandering ways don't hurt their women, if adultery hurts you it sure does hurt her too. If y'all men loved your wives in the first place, you would sort out your issues, talk to them and tell them what you think about them and the way forward.

The answer to all these questions is that women have given you an easy time. But one thing is for sure, one day that lady will get up, dust her feet and walk. But i doubt some of you will let that happen, thats why we hear cases of men killing their wives because she decided to call it quits.

What happened to "for better, for worse"? You need to realize that the grass is not greener on the other side, the grass is greener where it is watered. So you want your wife to lose weight, why dont you encourage and maybe even join her in the gym. So you want her to ditch her old dressing style, why dont you surprise her with a shopping spree once in a while? why dont you do the things you used to do before she got "boring"? Why not take her to a movie once in a week, or pay for some spa services. That amount of money you spend on your mpango, why not spend just half on your wife instead? Could be she didnt change, you did.

Have a better evening
Adhis♥

Weight Loss Tips #3

Calories

Many people do not understand how important calories are in weight loss. The moment you understand how it works then weight loss will be a downhill task for you.Calories are units of energy that your body needs for you to go about your daily activities.

How are calories converted to fat then?

One pound of fat (450 grams) equals 3500 calories and to gain one pound of fat in a week you need to eat 500 extra calories per day. That also means for you to burn one pound of fat you need to exercise and lose 500 extra calories. Rocket science? no. This means if you just keep on piling your calories, your body will have more energy than it needs, and that will be converted and stored as fat.

See an active woman needs around 1200-1400 calories per day, and an active man needs around 2000-2500 calories per day. For ladies that means you meals should be approximately 400-450 calories per meal, three meals a day. Now lets have a look:

Most fruits and vegetables have acceptable amounts of calories, but i would like to focus on junk food:

• 2 stuffed Oreos have 140 calories.
• 500 ml bottle Coca-cola  has 210 calories
• 50g bar cadbury Chocolate has 260 calories.
• 1 piece of chicken has 306 calories
• 1 hamburger has 280 calories
• Small plate of fries has 365 calories
• 1 sausage has 143 calories
• 50 grams ice cream tube has 145 calories
• 1 piece of pizza has 285 calories
• 1 slice of chocolate cake has 352 calories
• 1 cookie has 78 calories

Etc

This means if you have Coke+Chicken+Chips+sausage= 1024 calories in one meal
or if you have a piece of pizza+coke+hamburger= 766 calories in one meal
If you decide to buy the small pack of Oreo that goes for 30 shillings (6 pieces)= 420 calories already.

And remember, all these are one meal (lunch), you haven't counted breakfast and supper and those in between snacks and sodas.

This explains why clean eating and exercise are very important in weight loss:
1. Clean eating ensures you avoid excessive caloric intake
2. exercise ensures you lose the excess calories

Now this doesnt mean that you avoid these foods altogether, you can set aside a day when you are allowed to have a piece of this and that (known as cheat day).
Also avoid being too petty on calories, but also ensure that you are aware at the back of your mind roughly the amount of work calories in fast food will put you to.

Now let us assume you have taken the above mentioned junk food, do you know how much exercise it would take you to burn it and avoid it piling into fat?

Ati to burn the calories in that piece of deep fried chicken you will have to cycle for 65 minutes!
And 4 stuffed Oreos would take you 1.3 hours of weight lifting,
For that small bar of Cadburys Chocolate, you would require 30 minutes of swimming to burn them calories.

It is time you started eating clean, drop junk food and without even exercising i will assure you that your clothes will start getting baggy within a month of clean eating. Then after that you can now include these light exercises we talked about. And there you have it, the possible reasons why you have been unable to lose that weight and keep fit.

Haya twende kazi!
Adhis ♥

Weight Loss Tips #2

Exercise

"A rolling stone gathers no moss" I am sure sure most of us wrote that proverb in our compositions in lower primary. In your weight loss journey, let us translate that to "A moving person gathers no weight" hehe. After you have eaten clean, the next thing is to get moving.

Most people claim that they are busy and don't have time for the gym, here are a few tips that can help you:

1. Dont take the lifts, use the stairs instead. It doesn't matter whether to 2nd floor or to 10th floor. You can start small, e.g add one flight of stairs weekly.

2. If you take public transport to and from work, alight one stop before your usual stop. Walk for 30 minutes or so.

3.Buy a skipping rope. Once you have used the stairs and done those 30 minute walks daily, you may want to start skipping. Skipping is quite intensive so you may want to start small. You can start with 50 skips daily for one week. You can then move to 100, then 200 etc. I can comfortably go for up to 2000 skips.

NB: Never skip ropes without the proper shoes, you risk injuring your foot, also land softly and not with a thump.

4. You can then advance to workout dvds. Most movie shops stock these dvds. The easiest to start with are the Zumba dvds. They are quite enjoyable since they involve some dance techniques. I would advice you to look for a workout dvd called "Look Better Naked" it is my all time favourite. The moves seem quite easy but i guarantee you you will be sweating by your 10th minute. There are other dvds also available in the market.

5. You can join the gym and also have a personal trainer.

See, you dont have an excuse for not working out now, do you?

Have a nice workout, Adhis ♥