Men, The Grass is Greener Where it is Watered

As a society, we have come to accept the fact that most men will cheat on their spouses/partners from time to time. We have even accepted it as some sort of standard. I mean if your man doesnt cheat, his peers may consider him to be weak, he cant conquer.

One question i have always asked myself, what if the shoe is on the other foot? What if it was your wife cheating on you?

• The same way you give your Mpango wa kando your wife's number, and she calls her at midnight mocking and abusing her, what if your wife also gave her partner your number? Would she still be alive by morning?
• You brag to your friends and everyone in your circle knows that you have a sidekick, how would you react if your wife did the same thing?
• You keep talking about how you cannot eat Sukuma-Wiki everyday of your life, and how you need a break from your wife. What if your wife decides she is tired with your ugali everyday and she also needs some pizza in hers?
• You keep begging her to forgive you every time she catches you red-handed. if she was cheating on you, would you forgive her everytime you found her cheating?
• You claim that she has changed, she doesnt look the way she did when you met her. well so have you. You got a pot belly and you don't last that long at night either, is that reason enough for her to cheat on you?
• Apparently she needs your permission to stay out late with her girlfriends, do you need hers?
• You expect her to accept you back and forgive you 100%, but when you catch her doing the same, the marriage is irredeemable.
• If it is okay for you to marry two wives, then why cant your wife bear children for another man?

Why the double standards? Why is it that when men cheat on faithful women they expect forgiveness, yet when a woman does the same we hear cases of murders, violence et al? If your wife is as bad as you claim, then why dont you let her go?

What makes men think that their philandering ways don't hurt their women, if adultery hurts you it sure does hurt her too. If y'all men loved your wives in the first place, you would sort out your issues, talk to them and tell them what you think about them and the way forward.

The answer to all these questions is that women have given you an easy time. But one thing is for sure, one day that lady will get up, dust her feet and walk. But i doubt some of you will let that happen, thats why we hear cases of men killing their wives because she decided to call it quits.

What happened to "for better, for worse"? You need to realize that the grass is not greener on the other side, the grass is greener where it is watered. So you want your wife to lose weight, why dont you encourage and maybe even join her in the gym. So you want her to ditch her old dressing style, why dont you surprise her with a shopping spree once in a while? why dont you do the things you used to do before she got "boring"? Why not take her to a movie once in a week, or pay for some spa services. That amount of money you spend on your mpango, why not spend just half on your wife instead? Could be she didnt change, you did.

Have a better evening
Adhis♥